I believe that empowerment is about having goals and our actions being in align with those goals to help us achieve our dreams and aspirations; being the best version of yourself you can be. Whether you are a parent, own a business, trying to run a marathon, or figuring out where you want to go in your life, goals can help give us direction, motivation and purpose. The best starting point then is sitting down with paper or computer in hand to get in touch where we want our lives to go.
Without at least some defined goals and an action plan we can be a tumble weed where we are easily distracted or choosing things that take us on a different course never realizing and connecting with our true purpose. So we need to be mindful and have awareness asking ourselves if what we are doing (or not doing) serves or keeps us from our best selves.
I’ll give you a couple examples:
One is in regard to my physical goals which was to eat better and exercise consistently. I didn’t really take baby steps that I would generally recommend because I had gotten to a point where I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired. That propelled me to just “jump in the pool” instead of slowly getting used to it, but it worked for me. I finally started to feel and look so much better but I still had some fatigue, anxiety and mild depression issues.
I analyzed my diet/lifestyle and saw how I started my day with an upper - lots of coffee with sugar and ended my day with a downer (depressant) – wine. I was causing adrenal problems.
All I did was make some minor adjustments but those minor things made a huge difference. I started to drink my coffee with stevia or raw local honey (to help with allergies as well) and some unsweetened coconut milk. I drank wine on occasion and/or weekends only. I took a food based vitamin C (we loose a lot of Vitamin C when under duress), HTP-5/B-complex (helps regulate and balance cortisol – stress hormone levels as well as increases serotonin (the feel good hormone) levels as well as higher doses of fish oils (EFA’s). What a positive difference it made for me in only a couple weeks and no drugs/medications to just mask it. (Part of my Health Coaching is seeing/accessing what is working and what isn't. Making necessary adjustments - sometimes just minor ones - can make all the difference).
Writing goals keeps you on task and proactive instead of reactive. As another example, one of my past relationships wasn’t serving me well to reach my relationship goals. The relationship was not complimenting my values, passions and direction I wanted for myself and someone special in my life.
The woman I was dating for almost 2 years was bipolar and complicated the issue with drugs and alcohol. It was a roller coaster of up’s and down’s. It stopped both of us from progressing as individuals as well as in our relationship. I spent so much time trying to help her and in the end the drugs/alcohol won and we ended the relationship. I was so caught up in it with her that it was like I had blinders on and a new world opened up when we parted ways. My focus returned where it should be. It wasn't about being selfish but being proactive from a place of being self aware.
Being empowered means taking a stand for our lives. To guard our minds, hearts and goals from negative and sometimes even positive distractions. To live in the moment not wasting our thoughts on a past that we cannot do anything about. To develop a destination and a road map to get there.
Goal setting is one important part of My Transformation Program because it keeps your eye on the prizes of life and you are a PRIZE!